Partha Bagchi – Tips on How to control your EXCITEMENT?

Tips on How to control your EXCITEMENT?

Are you finding it difficult to control your Excitement?

Do you start Stammering or Stuttering more while speaking, when excited?

Partha Bagchi gives you some practical tips on how to control your excitement…

Partha Bagchi, an Ex-Stammerer, who is the Founder President of Stammering Cure Centre (www.stammeringcurecentre.com) will now discuss some practical solutions which helps you know how to control your excitement.

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PARTHA BAGCHI

Founder President,
Stammering Cure Centre

Excitement is basically the feeling of enthusiasm and eagerness. We all get excited in different situations. For example, while speaking on our favourite topics or while making our point in a debate or argument or while simply remembering something about our past. It is a great state to be in and is mostly positive.

However, excitement can also pose serious problems. A major cause for the occurrence of Stammering is unnecessary or uncontrolled excitement. I am sure most of you have experienced this and will agree with this.

Here are a few tips to control your excitement in important situations and overcome your stammering :

  1. Analyse the causes for which you get excited.
  2. As much as possible, try to avoid or remove those things from your mind which causes excitement.
  3. Try to relax yourself and get over the excitement at that moment.
  4. Excitement could increase your stammering and bring back negative memories of your stammering.
  5. When excitement takes control, your body becomes out of control. So take control of your body and control your excitement.
  6. Make your expectations of yourself more realistic.
  7. Control your mind at the very beginning so as to completely be in control of your excitement.
  8. Practice restraint and rehearse controlling your excitement.
  9. Don’t think too much about what you did or how you spoke. This could otherwise lead to depression and low self confidence.

Last but not the least,

10.   Take baby steps and work towards your goal of controlling your excitement and becoming stammering free.

I am sure this blog by Partha Bagchi titled ” Tips on How to control your EXCITEMENT? ” has helped you understand your experience of stammering. Please read on to know more at www.parthabagchi.wordpress.com

For any more details about stammering/stuttering or to clear your doubts, feel free to visit www.stammeringcurecentre.com  or write to Partha Bagchi at parthabagchi@yahoo.com

STRUGGLING WITH STUCKNESS IN STAMMERING BY PARTHA BAGCHI

STRUGGLING WITH STUCKNESS IN STAMMERING BY PARTHA BAGCHI

Often times in our life, our problems are because we feel “stuck”. In stammering too, this feeling of “stuckness” becomes our actual problem rather than the stammering itself. In this article by PARTHA BAGCHI, the Founder President of STAMMERING CURE CENTRE, Bangalore, titled “STRUGGLING WITH STUCKNESS IN STAMMERING BY PARTHA BAGCHI” explores this feeling of getting stuck in the context of stammering.

To a person who stammers, the feeling of being stuck is the worst nightmare that they can ever imagine. Constant humiliation and/or punishment to every word or sound that they stammer on makes them dread the very thought of being stuck or stammering on a word. The feeling of getting “verbally” stuck lasts only as long as they are in that situation. They may use psychological defenses to deal with the episode or may feel depressed and conscious of their stammering for some time. But what really lasts is that feeling of being stuck with their stammering lifelong…

The struggle that people who stammer go through is that they feel stuck with their stammering. For many stammerers, accepting the fact that they have stammering becomes very difficult and even traumatic at times. As a result, they start to question everything in their life including their own capabilities and their right to live a happy life. This feeling of stuckness with stammering that they go through prevent or “handicap” the people who stammer and they start looking at themselves like a “powerless helpless victims” who is incapable of being or feeling normal like others.

I am sure this blog by Partha Bagchi titled “STRUGGLING WITH STUCKNESS IN STAMMERING BY PARTHA BAGCHI” has helped you understand your experience of stammering. Please read on to know how to move on from this struggle of being stuck… at parthabagchi.wordpress.com

For any more details about stammering/stuttering or to clear your doubts, feel free to visit http://www.stammeringcurecentre.com or write to Partha Bagchi at parthabagchi@yahoo.com

PARTHA BAGCHI – TOP 10 TIPS TO REMOVE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS

PARTHA BAGCHI – TOP 10 TIPS TO REMOVE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS

In an earlier blog titled “THE STAMMERING QUICKSAND”, Partha Bagchi  described the spiraling trap of negative thoughts in stammering. In this article titled “TOP 10 TIPS TO REMOVE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS”, Partha Bagchi, the Founder President of Stammering Cure Centre, Bangalore, suggests solutions to beat the problem he had faced as a “stammerer” and the same problem that numerous others are facing as a result of their “stammering quicksand”.

As promised, this blog is dedicated to the hand that saves a sinking person from the quicksand of negativity in stammering. Here are top 10 tips to remove negative thoughts by Partha Bagchi to beat any negative thought that arises from your stammering problem. These top 10 tips to remove negative thoughts are sure to help you combat the quicksand of stammering and will act as your own hand that pulls you out of the quicksand when you are spiraling and sinking in the negativity of your mind.

1.First and foremost, snap yourself out of the spiral and pull yourself up even if you feel it is impossible. Just showing the desire to get out the quicksand of negative thoughts is a very strong and powerful weapon to combat them.

2.Smile!!!!!!!! This is something you can always do even when you feel that you can’t. Try to smile at yourself in the mirror.

3.Try to spend some time outdoors in a park or garden or in the terrace and let the nature cleanse your mind of all negativity.

4. Believe in yourself. It is the strength and light from within you that is going to guide you further in your journey through life.

5.Very often, we are so hooked to our past that we almost lose what we have in our present. Get past your PAST and live in your present.

6.Try to stay engaged in some work or hobby as an idle mind harbours more negative thoughts.

7.Try to stay entertained with some music, television or movies that will lighten up your mind.

8.When we are low and down, we often feel that we don’t want to talk to anybody. In truth, this is the time we need to open up to someone or be with someone who understands us and can inspire us to come out of the quicksand. So try to spend time with friends, family or even strangers.

9.Any situation in life can be overcome with a little humour. Read, hear or see things that are funny or even crazily “lame”. Jokes, comedy sitcoms, comedy shows, joke books, sms forwards, anything that is available will do the trick.

AND LAST BUT NOT THE LEAST……

10. Remind yourself over and over that “YOU ARE A WINNER” because you made it till here victorious against all odds in life and you will make it from here on…..

I am sure this blog titled “top 10 tips on removing negative thoughts” will be helpful in removing the negative thoughts which pop up in your mind.

ALL THE BEST!!!!

For more information on stammering or stuttering and its treatment or cure, please read on OR write to parthabagchi@yahoo.com. You can also visit www.stammeringcurecentre.com

THE STAMMERING QUICKSAND

THE STAMMERING QUICKSAND

In this article, Partha Bagchi, the Founder President of Stammering Cure Centre, writes at length about the actual problem he faced as a “stammerer” and the same problem that numerous others are facing as a result of their stammering problem.

There are many people who think that stammering itself is the problem or the cause of the problem in life. As a result, people who stammer also grow to believe that this misconception is true. But if one tries to look a little deeper, one is likely to find otherwise. At the surface, what one sees is stammering and starts to consider that it must be the problem. What lies in the mind of the stammerer is a “fruit-salad” of humiliation, dejection, discouragement, shame, guilt, embarrassment, depression, under-confidence, resentment, loneliness and envy accumulated continuously over the numerous years of life branded as a “stammerer”.

This “fruit salad” in essence is made with these stale, rotten “fruits” in the mind of the stammerer and has the same toxic effect when one tries to eat it. The mind consequently falls sick because it has been fed this decomposed “fruit salad” of negative thoughts and feelings day in and day out. When one’s mind is filled with the toxins and stench of negative thoughts, the person is bound to develop negative attitude towards self and others as well. This bitterness and pessimism becomes a chronic “condition” that the person has to live with.

When one has to live in this toxic state or mind, the person suffers from a quicksand-like struggle. The person unaware of quicksand or its consequence, steps on it unawares and keeps sinking deeper and deeper in this negativity. The more one struggles to get out of it, the deeper he/she sinks into the quicksand. As a result of this internal struggle, the person’s speech becomes a struggle with ever-increasing stammering as he/she goes deeper into the quicksand.

To read more about the hand that can pull you out of the quicksand of stammering, follow the future blogs by Partha Bagchi.

 

For more information on stammering or stuttering and its treatment or cure, please read on OR write to parthabagchi@yahoo.com. You can also visit www.stammeringcurecentre.com.

PARTHA BAGCHI – PEN STAMMERING

PARTHA BAGCHI – PEN STAMMERING

I am sure we all thought that stammering only existed in speech. In today’s article, Partha Bagchi, Founder President of Stammering Cure Centre, Bangalore, explores the rare phenomenon of pen stammering.

“PEN STAMMERING?!?!?!?!?!”   

 Yes, you guessed it right. “Pen stammering” is the not-so-common form of stammering or stuttering that happens when a person is writing. Let us explore and illuminate ourselves on this interesting and bizarre type of stammering with Partha Bagchi.

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PARTHA BAGCHI

Pen stammering is a relatively rare type of stammering or stuttering that occurs while writing. Contrary to the popular notion that stammering is due to a problem in the mouth, tongue or other speech organs, stammering has been shown to occur in the hands as well in some special stuttering cases. Typically when a person with pen stammering writes, the person’s tip of the pen stops abruptly and then restarts to complete the word or letter he/she is writing with much force and struggle just as a person would do when he/she stammers to get the words out of his mouth. It appears as if the normal flow or fluency of writing is hampered by a stammering-like occurrence, hence the name pen stammering.  

The reason this pen stammering occurs is related to the actual phenomenon of stammering or stuttering in speech. While writing a word or sound (letter), a fluent person requires forming the words using his/her speech organs. For instance, when one has to write the word “FLOWER”, the speech organs including the vocal cords and lips start to function as if they are actually saying the word “FLOWER”. The same mechanism gets triggered when one has to read a word in their mind. This process is very easily observable in small children who are learning to read and write a language.

In people who stammer, the same process is triggered while reading and writing. While reading aloud, the person stammers or stutters on the words or sounds and that is heard by all. If the same reads in their minds, the person may choose to skip the mind or they may show some disturbed or erratic behavioural response to the word that they may experience stammering or stuttering in. In pen stammering, they write and express their stammering or stuttering of the same word or letter as a hesitation or “stuckness” while writing that word. It looks as if their hand would just not move to continue writing the word because the word has not been completely articulated by their speech organs.

After having read all this with a curious and confused mind, you must be wondering why it is hardly noticed, reported or even written about. The reason for its oblivion is that while somebody is writing, hardly anybody notices if they show signs of pen stammering. Usually it is noticed more in children and with time, they are able to master the art of writing as adults. But according to an author, pen stammering is considered a rarity in all cultures but it has existed ever since humans began to communicate using spoken and written language, i.e. it has existed for thousands and thousands of years.  To know more about pen stammering, continue to follow my future blogs on parthabagchi.wordpress.com

For any more details about stammering/stuttering or to clear your doubts, feel free to visit www.stammeringcurecentre.com or write to Partha Bagchi at parthabagchi@yahoo.com

 

 

HOW STAMMERING DEVELOPS AND COMPLICATES

HOW STAMMERING DEVELOPS AND COMPLICATES

 If you believe that people are born with stammering or just wake up one fine day and start stammering, then here is Partha Bagchi, the Founder President of Stammering Cure Centre, Bangalore, explaining to parents of children who suffer from stammering as well as to adults who have not yet understood how stammering develops or starts as they were very small then.  

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In most of the cases, stammering develops from an early age (from 3 to 10 years). Neither does stammering start by birth nor is there any physical defect. Stammering usually starts with minor problems but gradually complicates due to certain life circumstances, ignorance, unconducive environment and wrong parenting practices or treatment.

 When a child begins to stammer, the family members and others draw the attention of the child to it and make the child conscious of his disfluency. The child, at this stage, is not mature enough to deal with this sudden stammering problem and the constant awareness of the difficulty make it even worse. Different advices and guidance from an array of people makes the child confused as to what to follow and what not. (A detailed description of this process is given in the blog CAUSES OF STAMMERING by PARTHA BAGCHI)

 The child feels guilty and helpless if the parents are over-anxious, sad and dejected. The stammering problem gets more serious if they discuss these problems in front of the child. So the child starts hiding it by avoiding, substituting, hesitating and their confidence level dips down gradually. There is a lack of co-ordination between thought and speech as the child is battling in his mind to cover up his stammering problem. Fear, nervousness and tension develop with the constant anticipation of blocking.

 Slowly the stammering problem becomes so acute that the child becomes branded as a ‘STAMMERER’ for life not just by others but also him. Naturally depression, dejection and inferiority complex encircle the child. Being small, they are unable to express their feelings freely. They want to express so many things but pulls back because of the fear and anticipation of stammering and fear of negative responses. They are caught in the vicious cycle of being subjected to teasing, mockery, humiliation and under-estimation. Their negative beliefs and pessimistic thoughts get pampered. With the passage of time, the initially minor problem worsens and the child loses confidence in himself and starts believing that their stammering problem cannot be cured.

 All these things which start in the childhood continue lifelong, unless you take ACTION. Consult Partha Bagchi, a specialist in stammering cure and child stammering to get yourself or your family members assessed and cured of stammering at the earliest. I am sure that this blog will give you a clear picture as to how stammering develops and complicates.

For any more details about stammering/stuttering or to clear your doubts, feel free to visit www.stammeringcurecentre.com or write to Partha Bagchi at parthabagchi@yahoo.com

SITUATIONS WHEN STAMMERING OCCURS MORE

SITUATIONS WHEN STAMMERING OCCURS MORE

 If you thought that a person who stammers always stammers and a person who does not stammer never stammers, THEN THINK AGAIN…. In this article by Partha Bagchi, the Founder President of Stammering Cure Centre, Bangalore, shatters this basic notion that is popularly held by many. Partha Bagchi shares with you the situations when stammering occurs more.

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It is a lesser known fact and an even rarer belief that stammering is not constant and can fluctuate at a rapid rate. Stammering is in fact dependent on a large number of variables like mental stability, anxiety, excitement, fear, sorrow, shock, anticipation of stammering, stress, sleep, weakness, confidence, fear of humiliation or embarrassment, shame, etc. only to name a few. Stammering is also very much affected by the person(s), object(s), place(s), situation(s) and most importantly, previous experiences of stammering in a similar scenario. When all these factors are at work in full throttle, stammering is most likely to occur more severely and frequently.  The list below suggests the situations when stammering occurs more.

 The situations when stammering occurs more are as follows:

  •  To speak out your name
  • Answering sudden questions
  • While talking to strangers
  • Responding in school and college
  • Before and during exams due to fear & tension
  • Answering oral exams
  • Interacting with seniors and people with authority
  • While facing interview
  • Over the telephone
  • While buying tickets & at enquiry counters in railway & bus station
  • During an emergency situation
  • Illness, tiredness & hunger
  • Social gatherings
  • Speaking before a mass gathering
  • With parents if they are very strict
  • When very much depressed and upset
  • During a clash or quarrel with anybody
  • If anybody charges and accuses you
  • While cracking jokes
  • When over-excited too emotional or overjoyed
  • If confidence is low
  • When you are in a new and unknown environment
  • If you are extremely frightened
  • When you are very irritated and frustrated with life

These are just a few occasions when stammering occurs more or can be observed to be more severe in adults as well as in children who stammer. And to think of it, if we all were under the effect of all these powerful factors that we can’t just shake off, any one would start stammering!!!! This brings me to my next argument that people who are not usually classified as a “stammerer” or lead a “stammering-free” life also stammer at some point or the other and for the very same reasons like fear, low confidence, stress, fear of being put to shame, etc. just like a “stammerer” would usually go through in the “feared” situations. Even well-known speakers, politicians, journalists, actors, ministers, anchors have been found in various occasions to fumble and repeat like the worst of people with stammering, but who dare call anything apart from a “SUCCESSFUL CELEBRITY”.

We all falter at some time or the other and I guess, that is what makes us more HUMAN. So if you stammer do not feel ashamed. Know that if these “great” men and women who have written history can stammer and stutter then why we should be lashed for stammering on a few words.

I am sure this blog, titled ‘Situations when stammering occurs more’ by Partha Bagchi will be helpful to understand your stammering better and give insights to others who are suffering from stammering.

For any more details about stammering/stuttering or to clear your doubts, feel free to visit www.stammeringcurecentre.com or write to Partha Bagchi at parthabagchi@yahoo.com